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Come See Me in the Good Light

It’s not often that a movie trailer makes you cry — but this one might.1
Come See Me in the Good Light is a documentary film about poets Andrea Gibson and Megan Falley facing a cancer diagnosis that took Gibson’s life earlier this year.

This is the beginning of a nightmare, I thought. But stay with me, y’all, because my story is one about happiness, being easier to find, once we realize we do not have forever to find it.

Falley’s letter published just after Gibson’s death will give you a sense of the spirit of the film & the two humans at the center of it:

A couple years ago, Andrea said, “Whenever I leave this world, whether it’s sixty years from now, I wouldn’t want anyone to say I lost some battle. I’ll be a winner that day.”

Whatever beast of emotion bucks or whimpers through you right now, I hope you can hold that line beside it: Andrea didn’t lose anything. If you had been here in our home during the three days of their dying — if you’d seen dozens of friends drift in to help, to say goodbye, to say thank you, to kiss their perfect face, if you’d felt the love that floored every hospice nurse — you would have agreed. Andrea won.

The film is set to premiere Nov 14 on Apple TV.

  1. A YT commenter: “I am laid low in the gentlest way and this is just the trailer”.

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Harold Check

I read this entry and I feel the surprise and power of people’s reactions, but I also think “That’s poets for you.” Poets are magic.

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Kim D.

Today this is available!! I put it on my calendar as a reminder and thought it'd be nice to remind others!

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Allie K.

I’m so glad Jason posted this and you reminded us. I just watched it and it put me into that place where all the everyday things I see are suddenly so beautiful.

Jason KottkeMOD

A recent episode of the Modern Love podcast: The Love Poem Andrea Gibson Wrote for Their Widow...and for You.

Prior to Andrea being diagnosed, we were actually on the verge of breaking up. The pandemic had been really hard. Our life had gone from touring all around the country to being very quarantined. But also, we sort of kept with that longer than other people and maybe more strictly, because Andrea also had Lyme disease that they had to be cautious with. And honestly, Andrea was self-soothing with drinking, not a massive amount, but that was sort of their thing. I was numbing out with food or TV or just anything to shut it off, and we were really disconnected.

When we got the news that there were masses, we didn't know if it was cancer, but it was a strong likelihood. Andrea even tried to end it with me, like, "I don't think we should do this together, we haven't been good." I remember we stayed up the whole night almost. In another iteration of that conversation, I think I would have been like, screw this, I'm sleeping in the guest room. But because of what the stakes were, I must've said a hundred times: "I'm not going anywhere. I'm not going anywhere. We are meant to do this together."

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