Hard Things Are Supposed to Be Hard
Hard things are supposed to be hard.
Changing old patterns, ending relationships you’ve outgrown, raising children, creating from your core, letting go, stretching, growing, and stepping into the unknown.
The more worthwhile endeavors require you to show up vulnerably & honestly, and they leave space for something new to happen.
From the description:
All of my familiar self-protective parts are showing up to remind me of the vulnerability that is required when I step into new places. When I let myself be someone new in the world.
I feel the anxious thoughts creep in about what could go wrong, about how I might be judged, about what could happen, about how unsafe it is to expose myself.
And then I remember that this is a normal part of the growth process, especially when you’re stepping into something you’ve never done before. My wonderful, protective, survival-oriented little brain is trying to keep me safe by pulling me back into familiar territory.
Yep. Yeeeeeeppp. Yep yep yep. (via @tressiemcphd)
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I think I needed this reminder.
This hit me really hard. Couldn't agree more with:
Thank you.
One of my favorite poems by Michael Fasano.
For a Student Who Used AI to Write a Paper
Now I let it fall back
in the grasses.
I hear you. I know
this life is hard now.
I know your days are precious
on this earth.
But what are you trying
to be free of?
The living? The miraculous
task of it?
Love is for the ones who love the work.
Originality and a feeling of one's own dignity are achieved only through work and struggle.
Fyodor Dostoevsky
And even more pithy, from Piet Hein this Grook:
Problems worthy
of attack
prove their worth
by hitting back.
TIL what a grook is.
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