Lighthouse Parents Have More Confident Kids. “Sometimes, the best thing a parent can do is nothing at all.” This has largely been my parenting strategy, although it’s sometimes been challenging to stick to.
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"Too often, I watch parents overfunctioning—depriving their kids of the confidence that comes from struggling and persevering, and exhausting themselves in the process."
Having been involved with youth sports for ~40 years....that is a thing. It is real. It is impactful.
This is one perfectly valid approach to parenting. The reality is that all kids are different and no one style of parenting fits all. Some children need more, some need less. Some are mature for their age and circumstances, others struggle socially and otherwise well into early-adulthood. So while it's good to bring attention to a certain parenting style that might work for some people, I am a believer that there is no "answer" to parenting, that all we can really do is be, in the words of Donald Winnicott, "Good enough".
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